This was Miss Arkansas week. Congratulations to Amy Crain for winning Miss Arkansas 2013 and to all the other contestants who did a spectacular job. The production number was fantastic, the evening gowns were wonderful, and the show seemed to flow very well.
I attended the Miss Arkansas Judges Seminar and also met up with some of my friends who work with the pageant. It is always great to see old friends and catch up.
With Melanie McGarrah Moore - Miss Arkansas 1996
NW Arkansas Field Director for Miss Arkansas Organization
Now Bestie stayed at home with our son (kiddo #2) because kiddo #2 had just had all four wisdom teeth removed and was not feeling well. Poor baby is still pretty swollen today!
I'd say to just call him "Marlon Brando" or perhaps "Godfather". Just look at those puffy cheeks!
Bestie wouldn't have gone with me to the pageant scene anyway. This is another one of those times where we don't have to enjoy what the other does enjoy. Bestie is a Razorback fanatic - he wears red almost every day, we have Razorback items to decorate the house, his clothes have Razorbacks on them - but we don't have to go to the games together. In fact, I try not to go to the games with him because that is a way to preserve our relationship. He gets so caught up in the game he doesn't even know if I am there anyway. I set up the tailgate, prepare great food and drinks and make sure everyone enjoys their time at the party. I stay at the tailgate 'to guard it' and prepare for the hoard to descend on it after the game like a swarm of locusts, devouring everything in sight. With these roles clearly defined, our relationship is intact, he enjoys the game, I enjoy time to read and relax a bit.
Pageants are the same way. Bestie would be miserable if he had to attend them (and he also has a tendency to misbehave if the results don't go his way), so he makes sure I have time to go, encourages me to judge pageants when I am asked, gasses up my car, even buys me clothes and shoes to wear and then he stays home to ' guard the house' until I return. I am competing in the U.S. United Pageant this weekend and Bestie will be in constant contact with me, but he will be at home and that will be the best arrangement for my sanity (and his). He supports me 100%, but he knows this is my time and he is letting me go be a girl for the weekend. It works out fantastically.
Empty Nesters! Enjoy your shared times with your spouse, but also enjoy your alone times. Having interests outside the together time is part of a strong relationship.
Did I mention Razorback football starts August 31? Don't worry, Bestie is counting down the days.
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